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Reserve Your Judgment
Posted by Tanya
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6:04 PM
Everyone at some point in their life will feel the need to pass judgment on others. Let's be serious, it has happened to everyone more than once. Many people will lose a friend, a significant other, or in extreme cases, a son or daughter due to a lack of understanding. Even though sometimes it is necessary, it does have the power to ruin a perfectly good relationship. Often times, people will let their judgment interfere with a good thing. I imagine that some will share their opinions in hopes that their friend or loved one will re-adjust their actions or way of thinking about things. However, what the opinionated person doesn't understand is, actions speak volumes about character. One's opinion won't change their way of life. By sharing concern, it may have a negative affect that won't hurt anyone but the person doing the judging.
Sometimes, reasons for concern are needed. When someone's life is in danger due to a poor decision, I know sometimes it is hard not to interfere. We all want to help, even though it may come back to bite us in the end. But it gets sticky when people's own beliefs interfere in matters that are not life threatening or life altering. The question then becomes, when is it right to interfere in the lives of others?
Part of being unique is having a distinct set of morals. In my experience, people with similar beliefs gravitate towards each other. It is the only way to truly get along. When someone else's values directly counteract with mine, it is tough to overcome such a duality. A phrase I often find myself mulling over is opposites attract. While I don't completely disagree with this statement, I feel like the definition should be two-fold. Yes, people do attract others who are different from themselves. I know I could never spend my entire life with someone who is identical to myself. But I would also go crazy if my partner disagreed with everything I believe in.
Everything boils down to how much conflict one can deal with at a time. Everyone is forced to put on their socially acceptable oxygen masks. Everyone is forced to keep some things to themselves. We have to reserve our judgment otherwise we would be alone, forced to live the life of a social outcast. Without a finely tuned filter, we would be alone.
Peace, Love, and Good Juju,
The Disappointed Idealist
Sometimes, reasons for concern are needed. When someone's life is in danger due to a poor decision, I know sometimes it is hard not to interfere. We all want to help, even though it may come back to bite us in the end. But it gets sticky when people's own beliefs interfere in matters that are not life threatening or life altering. The question then becomes, when is it right to interfere in the lives of others?
Part of being unique is having a distinct set of morals. In my experience, people with similar beliefs gravitate towards each other. It is the only way to truly get along. When someone else's values directly counteract with mine, it is tough to overcome such a duality. A phrase I often find myself mulling over is opposites attract. While I don't completely disagree with this statement, I feel like the definition should be two-fold. Yes, people do attract others who are different from themselves. I know I could never spend my entire life with someone who is identical to myself. But I would also go crazy if my partner disagreed with everything I believe in.
Everything boils down to how much conflict one can deal with at a time. Everyone is forced to put on their socially acceptable oxygen masks. Everyone is forced to keep some things to themselves. We have to reserve our judgment otherwise we would be alone, forced to live the life of a social outcast. Without a finely tuned filter, we would be alone.
Peace, Love, and Good Juju,
The Disappointed Idealist
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